Most couples don’t come to therapy because they’re curious. They come when they’re smart, high-functioning people who have hit a relational wall they can’t out-think or outwork. A rupture. A betrayal. A growing emotional distance. Communication doesn’t flow. The quiet fear that if nothing changes soon, the relationship may not survive—or that you’ll grow into polite (or not so polite) roommates instead of partners.​ Yet the default recommendation is often the same: weekly couples therapy....

If you read my last post on the Window of Tolerance, you know that emotion regulation is the essential foundation for effective...

A couple shares a moment of joy When couples come to my practice, they often arrive having already tried various approaches. Many have...